New Year, Old Way – It’s Okay!

December 28, 2022

Taking down the Christmas tree is generally something I do alone. I’ve always savoured the quiet of a snowy afternoon. I’ll have a cup of tea with an album or a podcast playing in the background. Wrapping the ornaments and placing them back in their boxes, winding the strings of lights up and sticking them in our stockings – the utility of saving and reusing is a refreshing antidote to the extravagance of the season.

Taking down the Christmas tree reveals a starker, simpler living room. After I sweep up the needles and move the furniture back into place it is as if a mini renovation has been completed. The clean lines of January beckon.

I used to refuse to consider New Year’s resolutions. Not because of any philosophical opposition, but because my life had no room for change. I was just living it. I did not engage in much self-reflection through my 20’s or 30’s – I was too preoccupied with all of the things I was doing.

I still do not do New Year’s resolutions, but over the past few years I have started the practice of writing gentle encouragements for myself in a notebook at times of the year when I am taking stock. These encouragements morph over time but generally cover the usual bases for maintaining a healthy balance – exercise, nutrition, daily routines such as writing, going to bed earlier, making social contact, completing acts of service, or meditating each morning. The encouragements are usually things I am already doing, at least some of the time. This way I can celebrate the good things and plan to continue or grow them.

Ex: Keep getting out walking with the dog as often as you can – everyday when possible!

Resolution is a strong word, meaning a firm decision to do or not do something. Everyone is different, but in my world that is a synonym for failure. Life is made up of small moments strung together; I must turn my ship in increments so I don’t swamp her.

Let’s face it – we are using lots of resolve just getting out of bed most days in January, at least here in Canada. Let’s give ourselves a pat on the back for getting to a new year, and enjoy this moment!

11 Comments

  1. Ann Phair

    Beautiful words just like the author. Hope you have wonderful new year.

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    • janinecutting

      Thanks, Ann, that is so sweet 🙂 I hope you have a Happy New Year!!

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      • Mary

        I love your posts Janine because they are authentic and will resonate with so many . I never make resolutions but just try to live a grateful, meaningful life enjoying the simple things.January is definitely a challenging month for lots of reasons in the colder climates.Validating this really helps so many people.That is the gift that you bring to this world!Wishing you and Asher a year of blessings and peace!🥰🥂

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        • janinecutting

          So true, Mary. I also think living a meaningful life with gratefulness for the simple things is a recipe for peace and happiness! Thank you so much for reading and taking the time to make such a thoughtful comment. It really means a lot! I hope you and yours have a wonderful 2023 🙂

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  2. Shirley Morrow

    This is wonderful, Janine. I will be following! Such a thoughtful way to share yourself through the wisdom of your words. THANK YOU!

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    • janinecutting

      Thanks so much, Shirley! I’m so glad you will be following. Happy New Year and chat soon 🙂

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  3. Gerald Warren

    Wise words Janine. Celebrate each little positive change. It isn’t all or nothing.

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    • janinecutting

      Thanks, Gerald. You’re right – it’s not all or nothing!! Happy New Year 🙂

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  4. Pauline Belbin

    Such a beauty well written outlook
    Thank you for sharing

    Hope to see you on the trail for our little “hellos”
    Happy New Year 🎊

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    • janinecutting

      Little hellos on the trail are the best! Thanks so much for reading, Pauline 🙂 Happy New Year to you and yours!!

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  5. Patricia Taylor

    I’d like to repeat all the comments above.. Your blogs are a joy to read.. Aunt Patti

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Hello, I'm Janine

It’s nice to meet you! I write about the calms and storms we endure during this human experience.

I am a counselling therapist in private practice and a cancer survivor. Helping and connecting with others is a passion of mine, and I’ve found that blogging is the perfect avenue.

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